(Continued from Part 4… See the whole series here.)

Aha! This was a moment of revelation for me. The more I knew, the more I didn’t know. All of a sudden I got it!

Mediumship now became an iteration of the original Aha! moment. Once again, the more I knew, the more what I didn’t know got bigger. Now a Ph.D., with certifications up the yin yang, I found myself challenging most, almost all, of what I’d learned in the world of academia.

There’s so much more to say after 50 years of parapsychology experimentation, tomes of peer-reviewed studies demonstrating aspects of the multiverse, now supported by decades of studies in various theoretical branches of physics with mathematical equations to boot. And, we’re still governed by the idea of a brain as a producer and controller of ideas versus a likelier version of the brain as a type of “radio (or frequency) transmitter”. And rather than a materialist or physicalist paradigm, it’s likely consciousness that is evolving, and existing as the foundational paradigm. While all of this is also supported by thousands of years-old knowledge that’s been passed down through the ages by mystics and multiple spiritual traditions.

While I’ve always supported my clients to use tools that I use myself, like tracking synchronicities and consulting a favourite oracle, meditating, sitting in the power, and so many other ways to connect with guidance from Spirit, Higher Self, and/or deep intuitive wisdom, I now wanted to make this a habitual and consistent practice. I made an intentional, conscious decision to just allow and trust in guidance from Spirit, and in my deep listening, I started letting it really set the pace and map out in bite size chunks what actions I was being guided to take, every single day.

From the teen years of sitting Zazen, through Tibetan Buddhist practice, and Transcendental Meditation (TM) I was well equipped to assist clients in all kinds of guided journeys, quiet and peaceful relaxation, and mindful awareness practices. They proved through words and behaviours, these were helpful. On top of that, this daily tracking of guidance from Spirit really made the kind of difference for me that I imagined were results my clients also were seeking.

When there’s a desire for deeper 1:1 work, especially to deconstruct mindset patterns that don’t serve, and ambivalence that has a tendency to derail intentional manifesting, it’s a pleasure to reconnect with former clients and move forward to the next level. However, a pattern became noticeable. The shoulds, the looping, the self-doubt sometimes continued to see clients returning to non-action, and they knew it! They had the fundamentals of my 12 Pillar framework, however, the greater self-reliance required a substantial paradigm shift, distinguishing the materialist paradigm from the multiverse spiritual paradigm. Rather than allowing the former to dictate from an internalized inner voice that repeatedly gives prominence to shoulds, self-doubt and paralysis, how can we acknowledge an essential coexistence and balance of both aspects?

This is why a small group coaching program is being launched, to help people reconnect and trust their intuitive wisdom, guidance from Spirit, & connection with their Higher Self in a supportive setting of like-minded others, practising and tracking guidance from Spirit together, with 1:1 help from me where necessary. Essentially, a consistent daily quiet contemplation practice of asking for assistance and trusting, & affirming that guidance is always present, and then taking action.

Increased self-awareness and strength, in the face of self-doubt, has heart and meaning and Getting Unstuck With Guidance From Spirit is intended to help integrate and become this embodiment without the looping, the excuses and the internalized voice originating from a rigid one-sided linearity and logic. Let’s move toward greater confidence in living life on purpose and fulfillment, with higher levels of ease and grace.

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If you’re interested and want to learn more, check out my brand new program offering:  GETTING UNSTUCK WITH GUIDANCE FROM SPIRIT

(Continued from Part 3… See the whole series here.)

Here we are, cloaked in a physical body, with something that’s like a radio transmitter. And the radio transmitter connects us to the stuff of which the Universe is made. Can we simply acknowledge, and allow ourselves to be the receivers of thought transmissions? Players in Team Multiverse? Rules here are different. It might need some getting used to.

A few years back, I felt guidance from Spirit pushing me towards training as a medium. Frankly, I was shocked. I was shocked and taken aback. Being a medium wasn’t on my radar. It wasn’t on my list of wants or to-dos. I hadn’t even considered it. Actually, it was almost inconceivable.

I wasn’t the person who had witnessed spirits at the foot of my bed in childhood. People didn’t visit my family home for tea leaf readings or seances on the down low. In my home, I never heard about the occult, the paranormal, or psychic experiences. “That world” was nonsense. Even hypnosis was a “scam”.

That’s not to say, I didn’t have an inner world populated by angels and what I thought of as woodland faeries or “the little people” and I had a powerful intuition, profound and life-saving sometimes. My felt sense (clairsentience), hearing (clairaudience) & seeing (clairvoyance) came in handy during my years in emergency child protection work. These were private experiences though. They weren’t experiences I talked about.

All these familiar real world expressions of the “unknown” were parts of me I trusted by now. I do know to listen when my guidance “speaks”. And my Spirit guidance had spoken! So, I enrolled in a year-long mediumship training, imagining it might be a short-lived year. It wasn’t.

It was mesmerizing and profound! It brought me massive joy. I engaged in 180 sessions sharing Spirit communications as a medium during that year and I completely fell in luv with mediumship and the multiverse. I’ve come to call it the “mesmerizing mystery of mediumship”. I want to know everything I can about the multiverse and guidance from Spirit.

I was inundated with information from this “other way of knowing”. Doubt, if I still had any, no longer existed for me. After hundreds of mediumship sessions connecting with Spirit, witnessing the impact on loved ones, and seeing the joy bubbling up, I find myself functioning in the world in a whole new way now. I have so many more questions than answers.

Once upon a time, as a youth of about 14 or 15 years old, a friend inked a diagram of concentric circles, one inside another, on a cigarette pack. Everything inside the smallest circle represented what I knew inside the circle and everything on the circle line and outside it represented what I didn’t know until the next bigger circle was drawn, and then another and another. As each inner circle grew bigger, it was encircled by a circle larger than the last.

Aha! This was a moment of revelation for me. The more I knew, the more I didn’t know. All of a sudden I got it!

Next post: why a Ph.D. left me challenging almost everything I’d learned — and what I’m launching because of it.

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See where all this is leading with a brand new program offering:  GETTING UNSTUCK WITH GUIDANCE FROM SPIRIT

(Continued from Part 2… See the whole series here.)

I know people can change, and I know guidance becomes clearer when it’s honoured. I know small actions build evidence. I know a self-designed life isn’t built in one dramatic moment. It’s built one guided choice at a time.

Today I know what still holds people back. Not the lack of talent. Not lack of intuition, or desire. The habit of second-guessing the very guidance they asked for is what holds people back.

So this next chapter of doing what I love is about helping people stop circling the same door and begin walking through it, and living as the person their soul, their Higher Self, and their guidance have been inviting them to become.

This is where the real work begins. Not from another insight. It begins from a decision.

The decision that changes everything is the decision to act on wisdom already received.

What makes this challenging, once someone decides, is the insistent force of conforming to the “materialist” or “physicalist” paradigm. The voice of self-doubt, the voice that creates paralysis, the looping….

The physicalist paradigm is only an aspect of the picture. It’s never been the whole picture. We’re souls occupying a physical body. What we know about consciousness today is that consciousness is the fundamental building block. It is consciousness that is evolving. We’re not a brain producing consciousness, which is what the materialist paradigm almost demands of us to believe.

Instead here we are, cloaked in a physical body, with something that’s like a radio transmitter. And the radio transmitter connects us to the stuff of which the Universe is made. Can we simply acknowledge, and allow ourselves to be the receivers of thought transmissions? Players in Team Multiverse? Rules here are different. It might need some getting used to.

Next post: the day my guidance told me to train as a medium. I was shocked.

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See where all this is leading with a brand new program offering:  GETTING UNSTUCK WITH GUIDANCE FROM SPIRIT

(Continued from Part 1… See the whole series here.)

I’ve had a lot of time to listen more closely to what people are saying even before they begin the deeper work. I listen to them say, “I’ve already done a lot of personal growth work…I’ve tried meditation…I’ve tried journaling… tried coaching…tried therapy…tried courses, books, retreats, healing work, and spiritual practices.”  

I listen to people tell me they’ve already tried meditation, journaling, coaching, therapy, courses, books, retreats, healing work, and spiritual practices.

I believe them. Most of the people I work with have done a lot. They’re never beginners; not unaware, lazy or spiritually disconnected. In fact, mostly they’re insightful and receive guidance. They’ve had breakthroughs, often even have deep intuition.

But here’s a question that still matters, “Has all of that become the way they live?”

Because there’s a difference between knowing something and embodying it. There’s a difference between receiving guidance and acting on it.

There’s a difference between wanting a self-designed life and making daily choices that build one.

That’s where I’m starting from now. “Do you need more information?” Most of the time “No, you don’t.”

The better question would be “What is still getting in the way of You living what you already know?” Because for most spiritually aware, creative, intuitive people, the obstacle isn’t lack of wisdom.

This isn’t about adding more pressure. It’s not pretending life is always easy. It isn’t. It isn’t about forcing positivity.

This 3D life is abundant with lessons, challenges, and obstacles. That’s what you’re here for. You can count on the curve balls to keep coming. Seeing those as opportunities is real, a real step forward. Learning to reframe through a positivity lens raises vibrational levels and that adds momentum to manifesting.

Most importantly, it’s about helping you build a bridge between inner knowing and daily action. It’s about learning how to manage emotion, appreciate what’s working, listen for guidance, focus on the desired life, and then take the next grounded step.

Again and again.

And, today, I’m starting again from what I know works.

I know people can change, and I know guidance becomes clearer when it’s honoured. I know small actions build evidence. I know a self-designed life isn’t built in one dramatic moment. It’s built one guided choice at a time.

Next post: what actually holds people back. It isn’t talent, and it isn’t intuition.

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See where all this is leading with a brand new program offering: GETTING UNSTUCK WITH GUIDANCE FROM SPIRIT

(See the full series here.)

Would it be Awesome to minimize internal negative chatter that sounds like self-doubt? Wake up inspired and in action instead of thinking you’ll do something tomorrow? Know you’ll only have to ask and what’s next will start taking shape? Can you imagine feeling like you’re actually building a life on purpose? A life rooted in your deepest desires? A life aligned with your truest values?

How would that make a difference in your life?

So, what’s still getting in the way of you living what you already know?

After decades of learning how to follow guidance, build a self-designed life, and help clients do the same, I’m looking at where people still get stuck.

You have insight. You aren’t living it consistently.

“Focus on what you want, not what’s missing.” I speak these 8 words repeatedly, like I’m a stuck record! It doesn’t mean ignoring real problems. It means to stop giving energy to the problem, so you can build the kind of life you’re actually here to create.

The 12 Pillared framework that’s been crafted for clients over time provides all the tools that I use to build a solid foundation that can hold and sustain the kind of transformation most people requesting services have been asking for. I’ve always been an advocate of the coaching model, which holds clients as healthy, whole and complete, and I’ve always wanted to be an example for what I believe, so I use the tools I share with others, and their results, and mine, demonstrate they work.

I found myself looking for the essence of what distilling down would look like and the 12 Pillars became 5 by first taking the bird’s eye view, sequencing processes and combining them into the structure I now use today, to demonstrate to myself, the why and how that transformation happens.

In other words I went searching for the “must-haves” for living a fulfilling, self-designed life on purpose. I was looking at the tools that help us vividly vision vibrationally, create blame-free emotional accountability, appreciate more deeply, and allow the wise intuitive higher Self, and guidance from Spirit to be incorporated into core identity. Witnessing personal and client results shows me this is what helps us change for the better.

Taking action is the part that’s hard. Having the mindset that’s strong enough to continue playing in the multiverse while turning off the constant drone of the materialist paradigm is hard.

That constant drone, usually someone else telling you the kind of life to want, is mostly internalized by now, a message so old that it arises as self-doubt almost naturally, and listening to it becomes part of the loop.

Most of the time you know what you want, but you doubt your own knowing. You receive guidance, but question it. You feel the next step, but wait for more proof.

You imagine the life you want, and the old voice says: “Is that realistic?” “Who do you think you are?” “What if it doesn’t work?” “What if it’s too late?” “What if people judge me?” “What if I’m making it all up?”

That’s how your beautiful vision, Magnificent You, gets smaller.

I’ve had a lot of time to listen more closely to what people are saying even before they begin the deeper work. I listen to them say, “I’ve already done a lot of personal growth work…I’ve tried meditation…I’ve tried journaling… tried coaching…tried therapy…tried courses, books, retreats, healing work, and spiritual practices.”

Next post: the people who’ve tried everything — and the question that still matters.

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See where all this is leading with a brand new program offering: GETTING UNSTUCK WITH GUIDANCE FROM SPIRIT

As I listened to someone recounting a story to their clients, I found myself reminding myself of something I already knew, bringing me back to awareness, & suddenly being able to take it back to myself. 

And isn’t that Fantastic? Someone reminding you of something you can do so well for others in your life, yet at the present moment, you might not be doing that so well for yourself.  I believe you’ve all experienced something similar.

I feel inspired, excited, full of gratitude today.  It’s been a crazy two weeks.  Lots of work.  An incredibly lengthy to-do list.  For me, that’s saying a lot.  On a regular day it’s busy.  These past two weeks though, kinda crazy, chaotic busy. 

Then yesterday, I happened to notice something.  It was an in-my-face experience.  I’m sure you’ve all had them.  Somebody brings you a jolt back to reality by reminding you of one of your own “primary beliefs to live by”.  It was about having the ability to perceive challenges as opportunities.  It’s been a signature theme for me.  I guide all my clients to treat “Obstacles As Opportunities”. 

And yet, here I sat, for fourteen daze, diving into a huge & tangled technology trap that had seemed just, well, too big to face.  What happened when I did sit down to face it?  It grew bigger!  I had avoided it for so long I literally had no idea. 

I had become Sisyphus.  I was pushing a heavy rock.  It doesn’t matter the nature, or depth, or breadth, or impact, or source of the heavy rock.  I had found myself pushing a heavy rock up a big hill.  I bet you can see yourself, remembering lots of times in your life where you found yourself like this.  Maybe that’s a place you’re in today? 

Whether life-altering, or threatening, or simply perceived to be so, it is what it is.  The sooner we find the opportunity in it, the better.  That’s where the opening is.  The opening is the Opportunity.  

An external source delivering my message, a cautionary note to stay present to that which I know to be true!  Fortune!  Serendipity!  Opportunity provides energy!  Energy begins forward movement with intention.  And the circle closes with gratitude & I keep on working.  This time with gratitude, as my tortured trap of technology begins to untangle.  

I hope you can hear this message.  Today, it’s delivered second-hand, & I’m ever so grateful.  See obstacles as opportunities.  Feel the change at the cellular level.  Begin to light up the world with your smile again!

1. Coaches know the transformative power of great coaching. Usually it’s because they’ve experienced it first hand. It powers the passion. It’s why they aspired to become a coach in the first place!
2. All the passion, great intentions, and love for their clients isn’t enough to prevent potentially great coaches from getting bogged down or derailed in the myriad twists & turns of a coaching conversation and knowing that can evoke coach insecurity in spades!

Erase insecurity and the coach is set free to gallop forward at a fast clip guiding their client to guaranteed results in every coaching conversation. That’s the magic that results with a roadmap, defining the territory, and guiding the journey to it’s inevitable and accurate destination or outcome. In each and every coaching adventure there is a dire need for a coaching agreement. When a coach truly understands this they can roll up their sleeves and begin to learn how to use the most powerful tool in their coaching toolbox — the coaching agreement. A great coach must know how to easily and successfully create a coaching agreement every session. There is absolutely nothing that melts away any fears of making a mistake that a coach may have for their coaching session than knowing how to create a coaching agreement and knowing how to do that well!

As a first step on the journey to creating masterful results in every coaching engagement, with every client, every time you meet together I invite you to check out  “The Coaching Agreement”. It’s an informative read, and an interactive practice guide for all coaches interested in accessing more clients and making more income on their journey to becoming a more masterful coach. Go here and get yourself a copy now.

Critical Q: What’s happening today?

Bridging where you are and where you want to be starts with getting some clarity about what you really want right now, which in turn leads to more clarity about what you need now. Once you have the essentials, like food, shelter, clothing, needs may be less urgent, always in flux.

Change is the constant. Needs change, so you might want to ask yourself, “What do I need right now?”

A licensed mental health professional or other clinician, or personal development advisor may be qualified &/or credentialed to provide both coaching and counselling services. Understanding the difference between coaching vs counselling is crucial in selecting the right service for your current needs. When you work with someone who is qualified to provide both types of services, together you will create a contract, where you sign off on an initial agreement for services. When the contract you create is for coaching services, the service provider may document why coaching is a better fit for you currently than counselling. The coach will help you assess & pinpoint what you need now during the coaching conversation. The contract might include a written distinction between coaching & counselling services and might include a statement that if the need for counselling arises you will have to seek an alternate provider for that specific role. In other words, a coach will not simultaneously be your counsellor and a counsellor will not be your coach.

And yet, there probably is a solution. In fact, there may be a quite simple solution that’s fairly easy to implement. Two willing people have to participate. If that’s a challenge, and at least one of you is clear you want to make headway, be persuasive and persistent or involve a therapist as facilitator. I’m going to tell you how this process works so you can go ahead and turn things around with no further ado. This process optimally employs a therapist/facilitator guide, but do go ahead on your own if you are unable to employ a therapist to assist you.

Agree to the process and commit dedicated time in each of your schedules to seeing this process through. You must agree to the rules and agree to trust the process. You’ll need at least three 1-2 hr. blocks of uninterrupted time and privacy. Phones and other distractions should be switched off.

Begin each session by quietly and consciously acknowledging to yourself that the habits and patterns of your thinking and behavior have been established as a response to your unique circumstances. So, each of the communicators is recognized as inhabiting a unique little ‘bubble’ or ‘culture’, and doesn’t perceive or experience things exactly as you do. This is a good time to think of ‘the telephone game’.

A point of conflict, conversation, or issue is chosen as the ‘work’. The first person to have their turn (A), will use their session to articulate their point of view, the conversation or the issue as they see it, describing the situation as fully as possible, aiming to capture and express their own thoughts meaning, understanding and experience as fully as possible, starting from the beginning, moving to the middle and finishing at the end. The partner (B) listens intently, staying focused and undistracted, and attempting to temporarily inhabit the speaker’s bubble, with an intention to recapture the experience as if they had been A. Listener (B) is not allowed to interrupt speaker (A).

When A is finished, B’s job is to retell the story as if B is now A who has just told it. B is to recapture (act and tell) with as much of the same language and expression as possible, in an honest attempt to recreate in as much detail as possible. The point is to elicit a precise match with A till A feels B ‘got’ them, till A senses that as the speaker A was fully understood.

A can help B recapture A’s experience till it’s complete and A agrees with the retelling. Where there is discrepancy and mismatch, it is A’s job to clarify their meaning to B, till B tells it in a way that accurately captures what A was trying to describe. (“not exactly”, “that’s not quite what I said”, “I described how I was feeling like this…..” “I used these words…..” would be examples of clarifying).

There is no time frame which is ideal for this process. With 90 minutes set aside there is more flexibility when the time taken is much less, or lengthening it to 120 minutes if need be, or moving on to the next step. Longer than 2 hrs. at a stretch is not advised.

For the 2^nd part of the process the roles are reversed, and B becomes the designated person to capture in words their point of view, and experience of the same situation. Now A listens, and is not allowed to interrupt B,

as B tells their story with a beginning, a middle and an end. B will help clarify for A when it has become A’s time to recapture B’s view and experience and parrot it back exactly for B.

The third block of time in this process can serve for both A & B to appreciate the effect of inhabiting separate ‘bubbles’, and to consider potential areas and avenues for compromise. It can also be a time for expressing gratitude and appreciations.

Potential benefits:  empathy, reconnection, building trust and intimacy, deeper ‘knowing’ of the other, lifting the sense of being burdened, empowerment, supporting intuitive knowing and inner wisdom,  grounding, and potential for greater lightness of being.

Now we have awareness of an essential human dilemma. We must reconcile both facets of our existence. We exist in a duality. We are tribal and we are unique, independent, and individual. And we are faced often, with a call to create a bridge between these ways of being. And again, and again, and again, the building of bridges is required of us, in all facets of life. Whether we are at work or at play, with our families and friends, or in our solitude, creating or tuning into spirit, we simply must choose how to apportion our precious time and reconcile the many-faceted needs that these two dimensions of our being demand to have fulfilled.

We each manage this contradiction between the needs of belonging and the needs of being separate with varying degrees of challenge and success. When the challenge is experienced as high, our existence can be troubled and pained. There is also great opportunity for awareness and self-reflection. One way to open up and expand our heart-felt need to join with others is to consider how relationships exist in our lives as mirrors. When we look at difficult relationships, let’s inquire of ourselves what is the perception we are having of the other? How do we judge them? What are the qualities that we find difficult?

How might the negative quality we are perceiving be viewed in a positive light? How might we have disowned that part of ourselves? When we are open to looking at difficult relationships in this way, we open ourselves to the possibility of incorporating more balance into our own being. Relationships are mirrors that reflect back to us not only what we project onto others but also the parts of ourselves we are yet to acknowledge and embrace. This reflective quality of relationships allows us to see and understand our own behavior, reactions, and emotions through the dynamics we share with others.

This holiday time of year can bring high relief to painful relationships past and present. Beginning to view how each difficult encounter can serve as an opportunity to become more informed of disowned parts of ourselves and reclaim our wholeness can lessen the negative impact and infuse us with a sense of the positive.